When the next hundred soldiers came through the line, he changed the question and asked, "Would you like some apricots?" When he asked it this way, 50% of the soldiers wanted them.
He asked the next hundred soldiers who came through the line, "Would you like one bowl of apricots or two?" This time 50% of the soldiers wanted one bowl, and 40% wanted two bowls!
What changed? The apricots didn't change, but the way they were perceived did change. It changed from something they didn't want, to something they did want, to something that was so good they wanted more.
Your attitude and the way you talk about people affects others in the same way--either positively or negatively. God wants His children to be positive and encouraging. The apostle Paul said it like this, "Whatever is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely and admirable, let your mind dwell on these things" (Phil. 4:8).
To listen to the entire message on optimism and pessimism, go to http://www.churchoflivingwater.net/node/23 and click on "The Empty Net Syndrome."