Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Making Decisions--Choosing Your Advisors

Two men, who were broke and destitute, were sitting on a park bench. One guy bragged, "No one is going to tell me what to do! I've never followed anyone's advice." The other man stuck out his hand and said, "Shake, old buddy. I'm a man who followed everyone's advice."

The two biggest mistakes people make are 1) not following anyone's advice and 2) following everyone's advice. Both extremes will lead to failure. Instead, we must be selective in the advice we listen to. Proverbs 24:6 says, "In the abundance of counselors there is victory." That doesn't mean we must take a poll and ask everyone's opinion. Before making a major decision, we must first qualify our counselors and then we let them advise us.

1. Choose godly counselors. Ps. 1:1 says, "Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the ungodly." The first qualification is that the person must love God and have the track record in their lifestyle to prove it.

2. Choose experienced counselors. Prov. 24:6 says, "For by wise guidance you will wage war." If you are going to war, you need to gain wisdom from someone in the military who has already fought battles and has won. Choose someone who is experienced in the area where you need advice and has been successful. If it didn't work for them, it won't work for you. If someone doesn't know how to swim, they can't teach you how to swim.

3. Choose caring counselors. Prov. 27:6 says, "Faithful are the wounds of a friend but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy." Some people are envious and don't want others to succeed, so they will deceptively give you bad advice, hoping you will fail. Your counselor should genuinely care about what will happen to you.

4. Choose several counselors. Prov. 24:6 says, "In the abundance of counselors there is victory." Select a group of counselors after they have been qualified. They will be able to point out things concerning the decision that you hadn't thought about. After listening to their counsel, remember that the final decision is your responsibility, not theirs.
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