Saturday, June 20, 2009

Understanding Why You Get Angry

Do you understand why you get angry? It's because things aren't going the way you would like. Either a person is doing something that you don't want him to do, or he's not doing something that you want him to do. You're angry because someone or something isn't meeting your expectations.

If you let others determine how you feel, you'll have a miserable life. And it's unlikely that your anger is going to fix whatever problem is bugging you. "For the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God" (James 1:20). Ask yourself a couple of questions.

1."Am I placing unrealistic expectations on others?" If we're honest, much of our anger comes from our own stubborn opinions. The problem isn't with them, but with us. Instead of trying to make the other person change, we need to soften our hearts and stop demanding that he or she performs to our expectations. This alone could solve many marriage problems.

2."Am I angry over something that I can't change?" It's easy to get angry over the government's wasteful spending of our money, but for most of us, we can't do anything about it. Getting angry over things we can't change only steals our joy and makes us miserable. And that's just not worth the trade.
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